KCL Anderson/ THE SURPRISING THING THAT WILL MAKE SETTING BOUNDARIES…EASIER

One reason boundary setting feels hard is because of the way you think about it.

I have to set boundaries to protect myself from her bad behaviors.

Compare that to:

Boundaries are a way I can empower myself by focusing on my own behavior.

I get it. Sometimes it feels good to point your finger and say “Her behavior is bad/wrong and I don’t like it.”

But believe it or not, what makes setting boundaries harder, more unpleasant, and more uncomfortable (not to mention ineffective) is when you judge the behavior as being bad/wrong.

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