KCL Anderson/ WHAT DID YOUR MOTHER TEACH YOU ABOUT HAVING CHOICES?

What did your mother teach you (directly or indirectly) about choices? Her own, yours, other women’s?

Directly mine taught me that I could be and do anything. She modeled it (not 100% of time, and that’s okay…she’s a human, not a robot).

Indirectly, I learned that I could be and do anything (as long as she approved).

Both directly and indirectly I learned that other women’s choices were to be judged.

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Women share with me that it took them well into their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s…before they were able to do what they wanted with their lives, rather than what their mothers (or fathers) wanted them to do.

It took me until well into my 40s and even then it’s been a years-long journey.

There’s a pull inside to prove that what I want for my life is valid. Valuable. Serious enough. Not silly. Worthy of respect.

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